Which Are You?

Dr. Christina encourages you to live an inner-directed life. She believes that this is not "selfish" rather, it is only through living an inner-directed life that we are able to connect and care for others genuinely.

Other-Directed Life

Very concerned about what others think of him/her.
Attempts to please others.
Feels compelled by shoulds, oughts and have-to's.
May try to control others.
Has difficulty expressing feelings.
Decision-making is difficult- is indecisive.
May be a caretaker or a taker.
Feels resentful and trapped.
Often feels tense, anxious, stressed or fearful.
May fear being alone or abandoned- is lonely.
May feel out of control.
Feels confused and uncertain
Often feels depressed.
Feels as if life is passing him/her by.

Inner-Directed Life

Checks in with him/herself frequently.
Feels no need to control others.
Has a high energy and involvement level.
Is willing to take risks in life.
Takes time out for him/herself regularly.
Has a support system of friends around him/her.
Is both responsible and childlike.
Is not dependent upon one person for all of his/her emotional well-being.
Has workable and realistic expectations in life.
Can give and receive love without losing him/herself.
Can confront and say "NO" when needed.
Is accepting of him/herself
Has the courage to be who he/she really is, not what anyone else expects.